Today we will talk about two human emotions we call “Fear” and “Courage”. I often see people saying they are “Fearless” – they are not scared of anything or anyone. While it’s sometimes good to be Fearless but for survival, the people with courage can last longer and do incredible things.
Fear and Courage have relationships like classic superhero and villain, one can’t exist without the other, if there is no fear there will be no courage. Life would be downright boring with fewer adventures less brave things to do.
Fear and Courage complete each other.
Let us first understand what is fear, According to definition “an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm.” We can define fear in various categories but the biggest fear is “Fear of Failure”.
Fear is also an alert system. It alerts you about the situation that there might be an outcome which can be a failure. If you are fearless, your alert system will not work hence it will impact your decision making capability.
Fear is a fundamental part of making a good decision which is based on failure and success both but for that, you need to be courageous, not fearless. Be afraid of your fear but don’t let it run your decision in fact, use it to make your decision better, wiser and more solid.
Now if we further understand the fear then it is a mental state where you feared because of possible output of an event (Irrational fear). It means you are using your imagination here, we can say you are living in your mind and this imagination can help you to take a great decision or the worst. It’s a double-edged sword, Fear helps only when you have the courage to overcome it otherwise fear can be venom. It can stop you to make any decision, it can influence you to take the poor decision, it can influence you to take short-term decisions, it can freeze you.
It’s ok to be afraid but it is ‘not ok ‘to be in the state of fear. It gives you the opportunity to rise and transform yourself into a better leader/decision maker. You can use it to become wiser. The ball is in your court now.
Here are few quotes on fear by great people.
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ – Eleanor Roosevelt
I’ve learned that fear limits you and your vision. It serves as blinders to what may be just a few steps down the road for you. The journey is valuable, but believing in your talents, your abilities, and your self-worth can empower you to walk down an even brighter path. Transforming fear into freedom – how great is that? – Soledad O’Brien
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear. – Nelson Mandela
We are afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care at all. – Eleanor Roosevelt
Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have. – Louis E. Boone